Monday, April 12, 2010

Soul Care #28: Parenting III

How do you advise counseling kids?

Abstract reasoning abilities do not develop until later, so they need a very realistic line of discussion with a child: Here's a sample:

What do you want? (What's your goal?) You to leave me alone.
What are you doing? Sneaking out at night.
How is what you're doing helping you with that goal?
What it would be like to ____ instead?

Kids misbehave for 4 reasons:
1)They want attention
2)They want revenge
3)They want power
4)They want to be left alone

They can't identify these motives, so you should try to guess what is going on with them. Though they can't connect their head with their hearts, you should try to!

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