The Benefits of Ignorance

Usually, when you think of living in a foreign culture, you imagine the stresses of having to live and communicate in a foreign language. But actually, there are many benefits of misunderstanding. Theirs, and yours! Let me illustrate.

You are with your children in a crowded public place. When approached by a particular older gentleman, your ever-astute and always-honest 5 year old says, "Mommy, that man is really ugly." You see, you are SO glad, he has no idea what she just said. I could give paint this scenario 100 times over! Oh, the embarrassment I have been spared!

You are in a taxi with a lead-footed driver. He seems annoyed by the mere fact that you are in his taxi and every red light is a personal affront. You lean over to your spouse and say, "I think he has major anger issues." You can say whatever you want, and he is clueless!

You are at a local market buying groceries. The local seller sees you and automatically pegs you as a stupid foreigner. Do you let this bother you, and stomp away in disgust? NO, you lean in and listen. She thinks she's going to get away with overcharging you, but she's actually letting you know the honest price. So see, assumed ignorance is working in your favor!

This time you are at another market with a friend buying clothes. The seller quotes you a price that you know is too high, but how high? You're not sure, but luckily, you and your friend can have a private consultation right in front of the lady!

You are at the post office with a package slip. There are 12 counters, labeled 1-12, and you have no idea which one is the right one. Do you cower in fear? NO, you don't even need to ask. Just approach an empty window and hold up your slip. They assume you don't speak a word. And so they take the slip for you to the appropriate window. Walla! Language ignorance, working for you. (OK, sometimes things don't go this smoothly. But sometimes, they do, all because you look like you don't know any better!)

Oh, and it also works in other countries, too! Where in one country you were the outsider, now you and your spouse share an insider language that is useful for private conversation in front of children and mother-in-laws! (Just kidding GG!)

Oh, the multiple blessings of ignorance! :)