More on marriage...
"Marriage is not supposed to make you happy. It is supposed to make you married. Once you are safely and totally married, then you have a structure of security and support from which you are free to make yourself happy, rather than wasting your adulthood looking for structure."
"The creation of partnership, companionship, and even friendship--is impossible if one or both partners insist on being right." As one client once realized, "You're telling me that I can't be right and married at the same time?" RIGHT. A married person must respect the partner's opinions, emotional reactions, preferences, and points of view without applying a standard of right or wrong to them... the course of the marriage, like the course of true love, never did run smoothly, and isn't supposed to."
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Wow! That is eye opening, and very direct! Never quite thought of it that way. I know that marriage isn't easy, but I thought that as you learn from each other, to grow, etc., that some things would get easier. Maybe other things crop up then, that are not so easy? Just thinking outloud. Very thought provoking.
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