Soul Care #15: Personality Disorders

Personality Disorders

These come from traumas that are deeply engrained in how a person feels, thinks, and relates to their world. There are 2 that Dr. C. highlighted, because he feels they are common but easily missed in our line of work. He didn't so much guide us in how to counsel, but just to recognize them, so we could seek help.


Borderline Personality Disorder
A person who has been deeply rejected can so fear abandonment that they communicate "come here, go away, come here, go away." They draw you in deeply, and then wear you out and reject you. There is always unresolved drama around this person. The way they feel about you continually fluctuates. They begin a relationship with you telling you about all the others who have disappointed them, and some can be drawn into be the one who won't disappoint them. They will rip your team, company, organization, etc... apart. This person is committed to having only one person involved with them, and that is why you MUST get help.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder
These people have a deep sense of entitlement without empathy for anyone else. Sometimes these people make good leaders initially because they are initiating and ambitious, but they will take you down. They are only concerned about themselves. We are all selfish at times, but this person feels no sadness on behalf of others. If you don't hurt when someone else is hurting, you are capable of doing some very mean things. There is a fragileness under their vibrato. When they are hurt, they do feel hurt, but only on their own behalf. They look competent at first because they are driven and highly motivated. This usually comes from something deeply engrained from their background that they won't be able to overcome without much help.

After reading the dismay on some faces, Dr. C said "People with these disorders have no self-awareness that they have them, so if you think you have this, you don't! :)"